[Text] [Anonymous]

[icanhearscreams]

[Hey look, it's anonymous post time again! Totally not the person who's asked questions before, nope.]

How do you know if you have feelings for someone? Like romantic feelings. I don't want to kiss this person but I just don't know.



And before someone says anything about sex, no. Just... no.



Also is it normal for boys to like boys where you're from?

[There, he's posted it. He's going to go curl up into a ball and hide now.]

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text un: vi

[faceblocks]

anyone can like anyone where i'm from

and idk i guess for me its the wanting to kiss them part
i like lots of people
only ever wanted to kiss two of em

but i dont think it always has to mean kissing
what about holding hands
or just leaning ur head on em
cuddling

or just like
do u get stomach flips when they're around
do u blush
do you get nervous in a good but stupid way

then maybe u like them romantically
maybe u dont

maybe just tell em all of this

( TXT; UN: BOMBSHELL )

[opheliac]

whose the other? 😒

private text

[faceblocks]

the other here?

[icanhearscreams]

I dunno if I want to kiss him but like.

I want to spend all my time with him. Holding hands makes my skin feel electric. We lean against each other.

I don't get nervous but when I thought he disappeared I just felt empty and like stone. It hurt but I felt numb.

There's a good way to be nervous?

I don't want to ruin what we have if he doesn't like me back or if this isn't actually a romantic thing.

[faceblocks]

no one says u have to u can make ur own rules
but
wanting to spend time with someone can be romantic
isnt always
holding hands too
but the electric part thats veering it more toward a maybe

it sounds like u care a lot
which is maybe more important than naming it
but i can see why youd want to know

yeah but its more like excited
the way u might feel if u know ur gonna open a cool present
or have ur fave food
or get to do something really cool but maybe a little scary
not real fear scary just fast heart sweaty palms
OH WOW THIS IS HAPPENING kinda thoughts

if u already got something then thats half ur answer
if u have something then he already likes u back in some way right?

text; un: rider

[kaientai]

It's normal for anyone to like anyone! No matter what anybody says anywhere, the most important thing is how you feel about it. Who — or what — someone is doesn't matter if you care about each other.

[ this is advice coming from someone whose wife is a giant snake, so he really means it. ]

I'd say what makes feelings the romantic kind is when it feels different than it does with friends. It's special in ways other relationships to people aren't. Not in a sexual way because you can have those feelings with or without sex, in my opinion, but you just... know? Hehe, that's probably not very helpful, huh?

I care about a lot of people back where I came from, but I never thought about anything being specifically romantic. Still, there are two people I could describe in that way because they're most special to me.

Anyway, this ended up longer than I expected, so I hope it didn't just make things worse!

[icanhearscreams]

No it's not all that helpful. I just... want to make sure he's okay. There's people who I care about but he's... different.

I don't really know why. It just... hurts more when he's not around. I don't want to ruin what we have if he doesn't feel the same way.

I'm afraid he's going to think I'm weird...

[kaientai]

Yeah? Sorry 'bout that!

[ he tried! ryouma is terrible at relationships, but he likes seeing people happy, so he tries... ]

Hmm, that's a pretty normal worry to have though, I think. Not sure there's much for it other than to lay it all out on the table, since it sounds like everything being up in the air is a lot of the issue. Why would he think you're weird because you care and enjoy his company?

text | un: graham crackers

[possessum]

I think for me, it was that my thoughts kept going back to her. Not just in like a wow she's cute kind of way, but... for everything.

Like I'd keep seeing things that reminded me of her, or thinking of things I wanted to share with her. Whenever something happened, she was the first one I wanted to tell. Do you think maybe it's that way for you, too?


For your second question: some people don't think it is, but a lot more do. When and where I'm from, boys can even legally marry each other now, and there's a lot of them who have.

[icanhearscreams]

Yeah I keep thinking about him... and when he's not around he's the person I think about the most.

And he disappeared for a week and I thought he was ignoring me and I was so numb... I couldn't feel anything.


Yeah that's not really... a thing where I'm from? Or at least not a common thing. I've never heard of it happening at least.

[possessum]

I get that numb feeling. She disappeared for awhile, too. I felt like I couldn't function or do anything.

I know this place definitely complicates things. For a little bit I think I was wondering how to pinpoint my feelings — was this a "best friend" thing? Was she "family?" but I realised what I felt about her kind of was... everything. Transcended all those things, maybe. She was just... my person, you know? It was something I think I knew deep down somewhere.

It's something that's considered a right, where I'm from. Like... something that people fight for, to be with who they love. I don't think this place has rules like that, but it makes complete sense that it'd be strange since that's how it was in your world.

Do you feel weird about it? That he's a boy? If that's too personal, it's cool, you don't have to answer.

text; un: darth imperius

[drawsghosts]

It's quite common for boys to have romantic feelings for other boys in my galaxy. I myself lean that way.

[icanhearscreams]

Yeah apparently it's more common than I thought.

It's just not common where and when I'm from.

text; un: tabris

[peripheries]

I don't know. I just knew... everytime I thought of them it was like my chest was filled with something warm and sticky. I could both be comforted it and also drown in it. And I just wanted to be with them.

As for liking boys... I don't really care what humans think. So who can say?

[icanhearscreams]

What if it's the other way - if you feel cold and empty whenever they're away from you or you think they're mad at you?

I guess that makes sense if you're not human...

text | un: katherine

[manipulative]

It's very normal. Extremely.

As for your other question, do you find yourself thinking about them a lot? Do you look at something and it reminds you of them? Or do you find something and you wonder what they'd think about it? Because if you do, that's a tell.

[icanhearscreams]

Okay, that makes me feel less weird about it. I guess it's more common in places than I thought.

Uh... yeah. I thought that was just how friends were, though?

text; un: d.larusso

[miyagimagic]

Honestly, there are so many ways to like someone that it might be hard to tell without an example.

I mean, why do you think you might have feelings for someone?

[ What tipped this anonymous person off? ]

[icanhearscreams]

He makes me feel... happy. And when I thought he was ignoring me it hurt really badly and I was cold inside. And when he came back I felt... really warm.

I don't know if that's regular liking people or romantic liking people, but it felt... different than my other friends.

[givetheslip]

i suspect if you have to ask yourself that question you already know the answer deep down.

[icanhearscreams]

It's not like the opinions of others aren't sometimes valuable...

Text; un: darkness

[survivalthroughhate]

[Oh, this person (male, he's assuming) sounds young, or at last very inexperienced when it comes to the matters of the heart, so Maul will keep any potential trolling to a minimum as he gives out his own weird version of advice.]

I am assuming you've never felt this before? Neither had I until I met the man who became my mate back in Deerington. I felt an attraction towards him not because of the way he looked. In fact, I didn't see his face until many months into our courtship. Instead, it was his personality that drew me to him. We have similar mindsets about many things and it was refreshing to find someone who didn't want to change me or made me feel ashamed for myself. He cared about and loved me just for the way I was and still am. You can like someone and have feelings for them without ever wanting to have a physical relationship with them.

As for boys liking boys, it is very normal for relationships between those of the same sex where I am from. In fact, there are so many other sexes, genders, and binaries besides just "male" and "female" in the galaxy I resided in that defining all relationships under just one or two umbrellas is a bit difficult.

[icanhearscreams]

I haven't, no. It's not based on how he looks... it's his heart that interests me. We've both gone through a lot of stuff and he's managed to stay kind through it all. I don't know how he does it, but he's... kinder to me than I deserve. He accepts me for the cynical bastard that I am.

Wait, there are? I know about some fish that change genders, but not like... sentient people.

text | un: shithog

[foulhussy]

dunno.
i was bad at them
then i ended up with somebody.
do you want to be with them all the time?
are you always thinking about them?

people thought it was a little weird
but that shits stupid.
you like who you like.
peoples stupid little thoughts about whats right have nothing to do with what you feel.
those feelings are yours.
people just want an excuse to have somebody to be afraid of.
nobody here gives a fuck anyway.
i'm a chick and i'm with another chick.

[ Gender is a little bit more complicated than that for her and Anna, but it illustrates the point. ]

[icanhearscreams]

Yeah, I do want to be with him all the time and I keep thinking about it.

I'm glad no one here seems to care... I'm sure my friends in my world would have thought I was weird. But we argued about dumb stuff all the time anyway.

... Not really like with him. We've only had one fight and it was Trench-related weirdness.