[text] username: justanadventurer

[aetherweaver]

[He debates for a while if he wants to post this anonymously or not. He very nearly does, for fear of making people worried.]

[But he's trying to be better about his mental health, and if he can put his face to this then others can feel more comfortable talking about their problems, too.]

I was just wondering...

A lot of us are 'heroes' in our home worlds, or maybe 'chosen ones' or... basically we're expected to save the world or do something amazing.

How do you change from that to going to an everyday life? I've been trying to for months, but I can't shake the habit if expecting to solve every problem by myself - or nearly by myself, at least. ... It's nice to be regarded as a 'normal' person, but it's difficult to stop trying to be a 'hero'.

It's getting to be a problem, not knowing how to not take on too much. Does anyone have any tips?

[Now to hope Gaia misses this post...]

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text; un: an.exorcist

[likethelight]

[ oh... ]

Why can't it be both?

[aetherweaver]

Because I don't need to solve every problem by myself. I know that. But I feel like I have to for various reasons.

I don't want to drive myself crazy trying to fix everything, though. I've seen that happen and it's... bad.

[likethelight]

[ Valid, but also... not the point he was trying to make, actually. ]

Did you have to solve everything before?

Even people others see as someone who can save the world are still just people themselves.

[aetherweaver]

I pretty much did.

... Not totally by myself, I had a group of people who were instrumental in things before but... some of the big things I ended up having to solve on my own. Especially the fighting.

I know I'm just a person... that's part of why I'm concerned that I can't break out of the idea of trying to fix everything.

[likethelight]

[ seriously? wow ]

Just by asking this, aren't you starting to break that habit?

Maybe it would help if you tried to find ways to work more as a team with others. So you can always feel like you're doing something together instead of own your own.

I think it's okay to want to help where you can, but maybe you should do it together with people more. So they have your back too.

[aetherweaver]

I suppose I am. I'm just a little worried about... becoming a sort of person I don't want to be.

I'd like to work more as a team with people - like how you do at Sanctuary. It's nice to see people like that - who can work like an organized team. I... admit that I miss my team from home. But that's all the more reason to find more friends that I can rely on here, right?

... I suppose I might need to go make more friends, huh?