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𝙳𝚒𝚛𝚔 𝚂𝚝𝚛𝚒𝚍𝚎𝚛 ([personal profile] givehead) wrote in [community profile] deernet2022-04-19 12:31 pm

text | timaeusTestified | Coming Out

CWs for entire post/threads within: Discussion of sexual orientation, queerness, discrimination against LGBTQ+, homophobia, transphobia, gender identity, themes of coming out etc.

Coming out is such a fuckin' scam.

There's always someone who has to hear this but damn, don't let anyone guilt you into that shit. You don't have to explain any part of your identity to anyone. Not your friends, not your family, not your significant other. Fuckin' nobody. It's your identity. Yours. Not theirs.

And for the record? Don't sweat it so much if you can't figure it out. Sexuality and romantic attraction and gender identity don't need to be forced into some convenient description you found online. It's fine if you haven't found the right word for it. Language is, oftentimes, limiting to the full expression of our existence.

That shit is so fluid most people be wasting their whole life feeling worried about it because everyone around them goes on and on about how they figured their shit out. Like cool, whatever, congrats for them, but trust me, you're not less valid or whatever just because you ain't got a flag to hang yet. It's fine if you never figure it out. It doesn't have to be a bad thing.

It's okay to be confused for a long time and it's fine to want to figure out how to fix that, but like, seriously, a lot of that confusion does come from comparing yourself to other people and their own experiences.

Whatever. I'm making this whole post private in case anyone has questions or would like to talk.

Consider this April's sex education lesson. I'm simplifying things, obviously, but the point is to open the discussion. So. Discussion Opened.

Rules of Engagement:
1. You don't get to ask me who else is responding to this post or what they are saying. I will shove my foot so far up your ass all you'll taste for the rest of your life will be dirt.

2. You are allowed to ask me about my own shit, but I'm allowed to decline to answer if I get a weird vibe from you.

3. Feel free to go anonymous. I won't pry.

4. Do not force yourself to discuss things you are not ready to discuss. I'm not going to beg you for dirty deetz so if you're not ready, then maybe tab the conversation for later.

5. Judgement-free zone. I have been on every sketchy part of the web and am completely desensitized. Imagine a thousand-yard stare but instead of war-torn countrysides, I'm just seeing thousands of years' worth of explicit Sonic x Knuckles fanart. Which, okay, actually, dope ship. Bad example. But you get my meaning.
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[personal profile] strikefirster 2022-04-21 01:59 am (UTC)(link)
You're welcome, pal.

Well they should give a fuck. Each one of those bangs is like a badge of fucking honor.

If they're legal that's fine. But most of them are teens and that's fucking weird. And if I'm teaching them how to get by in life the last thing they need me is pulling shit like that on them. It's my job to guide them not fuck with their head. The last thing they need is a shitty teacher, I've been there.

Yeah. Well maybe if he'd grow a pair I wouldn't have to go after it.

See that's the first thing you've said in here that makes sense.
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[personal profile] strikefirster 2022-04-25 03:45 am (UTC)(link)
You welcome to be wrong if you want.

[Look. The like one thing Johnny actually knows in his life is what it's like to have a mentor figure screw up your life. He wasn't looking to do that to anyone.]

Maybe. I'm not about to get into that shit with any of the kids I'm teaching here.

Don't trust it to not get weird.

I'm not! At all! You guys are just insecure about your junk and you need to throw it back at me.

I know you are, but what am I?