deernet | TEXT - Anonymous

Is it a dude or a chick?

A young lady. As am I. Hence the confusion.

Before I jump to answer that, I think I ought to ask how old you are.

I'm seventeen. Old enough to be engaged and married where I come from.

there's no good answer to those questions

Technically true for my part of the world too. Then again, we also let kids go to war before we let them drink, so maybe we're not the greatest model?

How close are you and this person already?

Is that because the answers are all inherently bad? Because the feelings snuck up on me. I didn't mean for this to happen.

Really? I've been told that I'm too young for all three. It doesn't stop me from drinking, though. Close. She trusts me and I trust her. I won't let anyone hurt her and that includes myself.

Never stopped me either. Then again, there wasn't a whole lot else to do. And in my experience, when you tell someone they're too young for something, they're going to try it out of spite.

Problem with adolescence is everything seems so major. It's all black and white. I assume you're worried if you explore the romance you risk the friendship?

Ahh, young love.

Sometimes it can take the head a long time to learn what the heart already knows. The best way to realize your feelings for someone is to meditate on those feelings, and contemplate what it is you feel when you think of them. If you find yourself smiling then you have your answer.

After that you simply tell them.

Where I grew up, having a glass of wine or champagne with dinner was as common as dinner itself. And I agree with that statement entirely! Yes, that's it. Also, I was recently involved in a very intense relationship and I don't want to risk hurting her because of that relationship.

If you're thinking about it hard enough to ask anonymously, you probably do like her.

[God, what would anyone but her say.]

Have you tried talking to her about it?

[God, it's a good thing this is anonymous. That's the most pathetic answer she could have given. Who does that? Talking about their feelings?]

Yes, we both are fairly young. Fortunately, I know how to meditate now. It's actually rather nice, to be able to concentrate strongly on something or nothing at all. How does one do that?

That... wasn't my kind of drinking. Been told they do that a lot of places on Earth, though, if that's where you're from. Probably demystifies the whole thing.

I'm still trying to learn this lesson myself, so take it with a grain of salt. But I can't help thinking we'd all be better off if we could just enjoy the time we have with people and not try so hard to make it absolutely perfect and expect it'll never change.

Tell them how you feel?

Well being direct is usually best, but most find it rather difficult to be so confident. Perhaps taking them on a walk, or somewhere to have a nice meal or a cup of tea will help.

Perhaps, but I don't want to alarm her? She's from an earlier time and I'm not sure how she'll react. Not yet, no.

[it's against the teachings of her own society to talk about feelings, too. she's trying to sort out what she's been told versus what she's learned]

( Peter opts to go anonymous for this, too. It feels like a safe little space, a bubble. He's not used to talking about things like this so much aloud, but... he has experience with the matter, and the various complications that came with his own situation. )

I think I knew I liked someone when I realised that my thoughts kept going back to her. Not even necessarily in a romantic kind of way to begin with, but.... for a lot of things. The mundane things.
Like, I'd wonder what she'd think about something, or when I'd be out and about, I'd constantly see things that reminded me of her.

We'd talk really late into the night because we both had a hard time sleeping, and I never once got tired of it. I wanted to just talk to her forever.

The proceeding part was definitely scarier. Do you think this person might like you back, or are you not sure about that much, yet?

The way I know when I like someone is that I want to be around them a lot more, they make me happy when I spend time with them. My face usually gets super red if they compliment me.

I like seeing them happy and I want to help them achieve their dreams.

Does that sound like your situation?

that's how feelings work sweetheart
trust me
if there was anything that could be done to stop it
i would've figured it out by now

The answer has changed so much over the last few years. I've been trying to find what it is I truly want, and now that I've found it, I realize what it was. Someone who completes me, who I can feel fulfilled in the company of, who can support me and who I can support. Not just does she make me happy, but I feel alive just knowing our closeness.

I think everyone has a different path to being sure. Love's a lot like a snowflake that way. Every one of them is unique.

[She could be soooo sappy sometimes.]

Thinking about her made the empty parts of myself feel whole again. She could make where ever we were feel like home.

How you proceed depends on individual situations. Sometimes just acknowledging it to yourself is enough.

So the question here is, do you need a distraction because your thoughts are consumed by this person you think you might like? Because that's USUALLY the first indication for me that I am dealing with a crush.

After that I just get nervous and accidentally walk into walls or furniture when I'm around them.

If you are sure just tell them. If you aren't sure...you could still tell them and see how they feel. Might help you sort out your own feelings.

[And back to the alternate username Kokichi goes. Just in case.]

I usually don't tell the guys I like and make them try to figure out my feelings themselves. I'd like to be more honest, but I'm kind of compelled to...test all of them, I guess. And I'm kind of a coward.

I've been more honest with the guy I like here and tried to make it obvious and I'm pretty sure it's still sailing clear over his head. He's sweet and I feel safe with him, though, so...eventually. Maybe. Hopefully.

Be honest with the girl you like. Talk things over. Communication is key. Just take her somewhere nice and private and ease into a conversation about it if you feel comfortable. Basically, do as I say, not as I do.

[ Whew, that's a complicated subject. Chizuru can't even say she's exactly an expert on it - that's not the reason she's replying. It seems like other people are giving much better advice, anyway.

No, she's replying out of worry, since-- ]

are you worried about liking someone

[ After all, there's no name attached to the message. That's got to be on purpose, Chizuru thinks. ]

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