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[nothinglikea]

I need something else to concentrate on.

What do you do when you think you like someone?

How can you be sure?

And if you are sure, how do you proceed?

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[possessum]

She sounds like a really nice person. My person's like that, too. I think comfortable's the best way to say how it feels. Like... I can be myself with her. Which maybe sounds a little clichéd, but I think I never really got to feel that way, before.

I'm sorry, that must be a lot for you to have to think about on top of everything else. Where I'm from, society is a lot more openly accepting, but.... not everyone is.

( Much headway has been made by the year 2018, but there's absolutely miles to go with progress. )

Maybe you could talk to her about it sometime, when you feel comfortable. Even though I know it's.... probably always going to be scary.
It took me a long time to make that movement forwards. There were some factors going on that kind of made it.... not so simple as just confessing or even knowing how to explore my feelings at all, so in a way I can maybe understand.

( Aka a heaping dose of demonic possession, which is not exactly the same, but! He gets that sometimes, it's... complicated. )

[nothinglikea]

It's not cliched. Not if it's true. And a person should feel comfortable with the one they love, not just the heat of attraction. That fades in time, or so I've been told.

It is. I'm so glad it's happening here, though, not back home. Back home, this would be nightmarish and likely something I'd have to repress entirely.

I should. As soon as I feel comfortable, which I hope is soon. She's lovely, it's entirely likely someone else may fall for her as well.
I can relate to that, at least when it comes to not knowing how to explore my feelings. They're so new. I'm sure someone would encourage me to kiss a few girls to make sure, but I want to kiss her.

[possessum]

I think so too. I know for me... for us... comfort has always been most important. We were best friends long before we were other things. Even now, that's the way I'd describe her, you know? My best friend.

It's weird to think about, but.... here we have this place that's like a literal nightmare, but it's actually allowed for a lot more... freedom? In a lot of ways, I think. I've heard other people talking about things like sexuality. I think a lot of us are still trying to understand it, so you're not alone.

I mean, even for me.... My girlfriend got turned into a boy a couple months ago. (Don't ask me why or how, I still don't know... This place is nuts.) At the time, I was just really worried so I couldn't think too much about what it'd mean if she was stuck like that forever. But looking back... it wouldn't really matter to me? I'm not sure what that makes me, but I don't put too much worry in trying to figure out a label or something.

Maybe it's the same for you. It's not so much about wanting to find out if you have an attraction to girls in general, but rather it's... the person beneath who your heart feels drawn to. That's how I feel, too.

[nothinglikea]

That sounds perfectly lovely! And utterly unlike where I was from!

At least women here can be whomever they please without recrimination. That already puts Trench head and shoulders above where I came from. And, fear...it takes a great deal to frighten me due to events in my past. I survived those. I will these. And I hope that you feel that you're not alone, either.

Being turned into a boy! I certainly don't want that to happen, ever. I enjoy being a girl enough, even though I've been told that I dress like a dockworker. But the essential person was the same, even though she'd been turned into a man? That should be the important thing, that you still recognized her soul, despite its new trappings.

I do feel drawn towards her. I want to show her kindness. As much as possible. And it wouldn't matter if she was a she or a he. I would still be attracted to them.